No. It was more a rhetorical question of whether I can feel ok about feeling not feeling ok while following my own established guidelines. Which for me is…
Don’t check the phone until the condition is met. Ie…an item on my list…
because I am drawn to it, but most often stick to the plan. I don’t typically have “important” reasons to use the phone.
Ah got it. Thank you, that's a different (and better!) question than the one I was answering.
In my opinion, no, that's not a weakness. I suspect the pull never fully goes away. But I do think that as long as we feel it, hear it, and practise resisting it, it diminishes. Diminishes, but probably never vanishes entirely. I suspect we're in this battle for the rest of our lives.
So if you're still gritting your teeth, that's not you failing to get there. That IS there. Gritting the teeth is the win.
The bit about it not feeling good when you first put the phone down is so important, because nobody talks about that part. People expect instant relief and then feel like they've failed when the discomfort hits. That's exactly when the rewiring is happening!
So the ability to keep your terms, even though it’s challenging, is a win? It feels like a weakness.
Hello! Thanks for reading… and fair question, I want to make sure I understand it properly
Is this about the bit where I say we should learn to refuse the phone whatever the merit of the request?
If so, you might be asking whether refusing a check even if it’s beneficial is a weakness?
Let me know if I've got that right, or if you meant something else
No. It was more a rhetorical question of whether I can feel ok about feeling not feeling ok while following my own established guidelines. Which for me is…
Don’t check the phone until the condition is met. Ie…an item on my list…
because I am drawn to it, but most often stick to the plan. I don’t typically have “important” reasons to use the phone.
Ah got it. Thank you, that's a different (and better!) question than the one I was answering.
In my opinion, no, that's not a weakness. I suspect the pull never fully goes away. But I do think that as long as we feel it, hear it, and practise resisting it, it diminishes. Diminishes, but probably never vanishes entirely. I suspect we're in this battle for the rest of our lives.
So if you're still gritting your teeth, that's not you failing to get there. That IS there. Gritting the teeth is the win.
The bit about it not feeling good when you first put the phone down is so important, because nobody talks about that part. People expect instant relief and then feel like they've failed when the discomfort hits. That's exactly when the rewiring is happening!