Phone Free Manifesto: The Month That Changed My Life
The definitive guide to what on earth is going on here, and the science behind it. It's time for Ask A High Vis Idiot.
Welcome!
This article is part of a long-running experiment to reclaim minds from the phone.
We’ve all noticed how phones waste our time. But they also destroy our mood. We all feel ground down by worries about work, about our health, about the world. But we seldom recognise that behind the scenes it is our heavy phone use that is crushing our spirit, poisoning our positivity and making every little thing seem daunting.
Not having a phone is near impossible. We likely need them for our lives and our jobs.
Many of have tried everything to cut our phone use, but found whatever we do, we continue to pick it up entirely automatically.
The answer is not just to continue to try and use the phone less, but to carve out a clear, daily intentional silence from the phone.
In that time we train our mind to stop automatically picking up the phone, and reverse the phone’s (frankly massive) psychological effects on us. This is true Free Will.
This daily training can be done at any time of day in any way that suits you. Could be driving, could be a morning walk, but for me it was easiest in my commute.
I dedicated my whole commute to it, two hours a day. After around four weeks - roughly the time it takes for a brain to rewire (see the science below) I found:
It drastically cuts phone use in family time, by reducing instinctive/automatic phone use
It acts as a psychological airlock to stop work worries leaking into the evening and weekend
It helps me concentrate at work (which more than makes up for any time lost working on the commute)
It helps me feel much more optimistic in general
It helped me get back into reading for pleasure at home
It makes me much better to be around (in my opinion at least, not confirmed by survey).
None of this is subtle - it is amazing, and well worth it.
I’ve now been commuting without a phone for several weeks, and I’m going to do it for the rest of my life. The science says it has made my brain ten years younger, and honestly that feels about right. Feel considerably less mature anyway.
I’m going to continue to write about that experience of daily silence, surrounded by the oddness of the commute, as it gets deeper and weirder.
This post serves to answer all the questions people normally ask me when they see me in the Phone Free Commute high vis vest.
When it’s underlined, I’ve linked to a post I’ve written, for those interested in reading more about my abject history of phone addiction failure.
What on earth are you doing?
I’m a TV producer and father. A few years ago I made my daughter cry when I looked at my phone rather than watch her during a ballet recital.
When I realised I was picking up the phone automatically I decided I needed to take time to train my mind against this effect. I have a busy life, so I use my commute for it.
Because I have failed to resist the power of the phone many times before (and because why not, life is short) I do it wearing Phone Free Commute high vis. The social commitment has worked - I don’t look at my phone at all on the commute.
After a month, I declared victory over the phone. It has improved my life massively.
What is Substack?
My writing is hosted on Substack, which allows you to get my posts emailed to you once a week on Tuesday mornings. Avoid the distraction machine and receive these direct.
And I’ll be honest - subscribing, or liking my posts, or commenting, or sharing with friends… It all supports me and gives me a little pat on the head. It’s a funny old thing putting your mental life out there, so I really really appreciate the encouragement.
Obviously, it’s totally free - I’m doing this because I believe in it.
The commute is the one time I can get my phone stuff out the way. I’ll just tackle my phone use at home.
That is what I did for years.
But then I learnt about how using the phone rewires the brain, so it makes you use the phone more. Phone use creates phone use.
Because phone pickups are automatic, they near impossible to fight. Battling them at home is depressing, stressful and almost everyone feels like they are failing.
Try something new.
If you have dead time that you can use for anything, use it to rewire the brain.
At least I have something to do on my commute. What’s it like having nothing to do?
I do have something to do.
I’m training the mind to get rid of the instinct to pick up the phone automatically.
I use a technique inspired by mindfulness that allows me to watch my thoughts rather than to just have them, to separate “me” from the urge to scroll.
And to be honest, that’s hard.
Then the mind gets filled up by whatever you don’t want to think about. For me, that’s work worries - why did I say that to Clive? Clive thinks I’m rubbish etc.
And then I found I experienced a weird kind of loneliness.
Around week four I began to feel the benefits I described above, which have been beyond amazing.
What’s it like a month in? You must be so bored.
I still want to use the phone. I still have to train, to practise saying to myself It’s okay, I’ll do it later.
I try and practise being present, by listening to the sounds on the train. This is training to rebuild my phone-shattered focus, training to be more present with my family (I learned this from my dog).
I see the other commuters on their phone, and it doesn’t look appealing. It feels like I’m in a shelter while others are caught in the trillion dollar war for their attention.
The commute now feels much easier, but the real benefits are felt in the rest of my life.
It all sounds meditatey. Are you meditatey?
Not until recently. I’ve learnt a huge amount of helpful things from that world. But for many, meditation is a loaded term - maybe training the mind is better.
Practice to resist the call to the phone, combined with rewarding yourself for being present, is mental training for the smartphone age. It’s anti-phone training, to undo the damage. It’s the price of having a phone.
I suspect that in the centuries before phones were invented, we maintained our mental health in the incidental gaps in life. During those moments we were resting our minds, or maybe even being a little mindful without knowing the term.
Now the phone has spread into all those gaps, not just through screen use but also through podcasts. So now we have to choose silence intentionally.
It would make more sense if you read a book.
I found it easier to imagine this as training rather than relaxing. I think it’s important to know it won’t be easy.
And for me the silence was the medicine.
But, as far as I know, a book would work just as well (if you can stick to it).
Or why don’t you just listen to relaxing music or a podcast or something?
I’m trying to escape 24/7 distraction.
When I asked AI to use its neuroscience knowledge to estimate what would happen with podcasts and music, it said the chances of psychological benefits are hugely reduced. (Books don’t cause anywhere near the same reduction it seems).
I’ve now started to genuinely prefer silence to podcasts, but if I’m honest that took two months.
Have you just made this up? What’s the science behind this?
I read a tonne about neuroscience, contemplative traditions, the psychological effects of the phone and behavioural science before deciding on this plan.
When I started feeling the benefits, I asked learnt all I could about neuroscience to work out what happened. Apparently doing this daily consistently for four weeks rewires the brain in positive ways:
Heavy phone use reinforces the automatic habit to pick up the phone. It strengthens the wiring in the brain’s basal ganglia. Using this technique strengthens the pre-frontal cortex, allowing conscious control of phone use.
Taking a daily break from distraction and so processing your worries (from work or wherever) is good for you. You need to allow the brain’s Default Mode Network to “breathe”.
When I asked AI to characterise these changes, it found a study that estimated that a typical attention span in the pre-smartphone days was 150 seconds. It’s now 47 seconds. It said my brain was returning to 2006 levels.
It found it to be comparable to reversing 10 years of age-related decline.
I am speaking to a human expert about all of this. Coming up in a future post.
What about my commute? I drive / walk / work at home
The commute worked for me because it fitted so neatly into my life.
If that’s not you, you can get your daily dose of mental focus another way. Neuroplasticity does not care where you are: it only cares that you are regularly doing the work.
If you drive, try driving in silence.
If you do not commute, a twenty minute morning walk is your training ground. The rules remain the same:
No Phone: it stays in your pocket, or at home.
No Input: no podcasts, no music, no digital noise.
Active Observation: You let your mind settle by engaging with the physical world.
It will feel uncomfortable at first because your Evil Advisor is screaming for a hit. But stick with it.
Because it’s an addition to your daily routine, you will likely need to employ techniques from the world of habit formation to stick to it. More on this soon.
Okay, I’m suddenly converted. This sounds amazing. You’re amazing and you look great in the high vis.
I commute by train. Can I join you?
Thank you. Definitely go for it, and please let me know how you get on.
Every single person I’ve spoken to about this has identified themselves as uniquely addicted to their phone. So clearly the problem is with the phone, not with each of us. We should stick together - it’s much easier if we feel part of something.
I wouldn’t have been able to stick to this without the social commitment that comes with the high vis vest. I’ve said I’m more than happy to buy anyone high vis.
That’s a hard no.
Don’t worry, I have the answer!
I ordered stickers that say Phone Free Commute. Modelled below on a handy notebook, they will do the same social commitment job to help you stick to this.
By sticking this on your phone, book or bag, you are declaring your territory. It is a silent signal that you are fighting back. We are supporting each other in a quiet rebellion against the trillion dollar machine that wants our focus.
Life is short - don’t give up control of your attention.
I’ll send them for free to anyone who wants them, just email me. (Or just reply if you’ve received this as an email.)
If you’re not a commuter, together let’s figure out a workable routine for our fellow phone-addicted monsters.
Also in future posts:
I want to explore what happens in my head if I keep doing this for two hours a day. I assume it’ll get pretty weird - I want to find out.
I want to try and learn from those who are just now beginning their own Phone Free Commute.
And - a thousand more reasons to do this, from eliminating Sunday blues through to reducing permanent unease. The effects are genuinely surprising, and you only clearly see the negatives in the rear view mirror. Make your brain pre-phone again. Join the Class of 2006!




This is so spot on.
The science on the damage phones do is indisputable at this point.
As of 2009 we were exposed to 174 newspapers a day.
In the 80's it was closer to 50.
How much info do you think someone in the 1800s was exposed to? Or a
Cave person?
Our brains were not designed for consumption, and they weren't designed to have all the hard parts outsourced.