This article so clearly expresses how putting your phone down on your return commute allows you to process the day’s demons (and hopefully sometimes bask in the successes), freeing your mind to be present when you return to your family.
I’m going to pay some more attention to my thoughts on the way home in the coming days and weeks. There are too many days when I walk in the door to vent over something that got under my skin at work, and my husband isn’t shy about telling me how annoying it can be….
I’m so glad you enjoyed this one! I really enjoyed writing it a lot. Work worries are my little bete noire.
I often used to talk to my poor ol’ wife unprompted about them. I mean there’s no law against it is there, but I’m glad the urge passed.
I did kind of wonder if - used in a certain way - the commute home could be kind of an airlock. I’d be really interested to hear if you notice any change.
Thanks, Brandon. The world definitely has enough advice on phones, but for me a lot out there doesn't really nail the felt experience of how they live in our minds.
And, for me, people aren’t honest about what it's like to take a break from them, and rhe surprising pain that can result from that.
But I do think the tough bits have a utility - especially now that I am at week five and starting to feel the real gains.
The high vis idiot vest definitely doesn't translate to a car... But there is a read across. I've been exploring driving in silence as a way of building in more unstimulated moments into my day. The science would suggest that driving silent would share many of the benefits that I'm feeling at day 30. Going to try and address this in a future post. I don't know if you've ever tried driving in silence? It's tough at first, but for me anyway has become quite pleasant. (Until I hit London traffic of course)
The quote “And then I go to bed. And in the silence of the night, the ghosts return. Soon I pass out, the follow up email to Clive still drafting itself in my head. “ was really relatable.
My mind races with unsolved problems (or made up problems) all the time. It isn’t until I slow down and challenge their truth and/or write them down that can I stop them from bouncing around in my head.
This article so clearly expresses how putting your phone down on your return commute allows you to process the day’s demons (and hopefully sometimes bask in the successes), freeing your mind to be present when you return to your family.
I’m going to pay some more attention to my thoughts on the way home in the coming days and weeks. There are too many days when I walk in the door to vent over something that got under my skin at work, and my husband isn’t shy about telling me how annoying it can be….
Wonderful little ghost story.
I’m so glad you enjoyed this one! I really enjoyed writing it a lot. Work worries are my little bete noire.
I often used to talk to my poor ol’ wife unprompted about them. I mean there’s no law against it is there, but I’m glad the urge passed.
I did kind of wonder if - used in a certain way - the commute home could be kind of an airlock. I’d be really interested to hear if you notice any change.
They really feel like ghosts! You’ve described the problem so well
Thank you! Really kind of you to say.
Given I have so much nothing time during my day now, I do spend a huge amount of time thinking about this. Possibly too much!
I like the way you framed the problem, rather than just another post on phone addiction. I look forward to more.
Thanks, Brandon. The world definitely has enough advice on phones, but for me a lot out there doesn't really nail the felt experience of how they live in our minds.
And, for me, people aren’t honest about what it's like to take a break from them, and rhe surprising pain that can result from that.
But I do think the tough bits have a utility - especially now that I am at week five and starting to feel the real gains.
Glad to have you along for the ride
As long as you’re not driving on your commute!
The high vis idiot vest definitely doesn't translate to a car... But there is a read across. I've been exploring driving in silence as a way of building in more unstimulated moments into my day. The science would suggest that driving silent would share many of the benefits that I'm feeling at day 30. Going to try and address this in a future post. I don't know if you've ever tried driving in silence? It's tough at first, but for me anyway has become quite pleasant. (Until I hit London traffic of course)
Loved the read (and thanks for the inclusion).
The quote “And then I go to bed. And in the silence of the night, the ghosts return. Soon I pass out, the follow up email to Clive still drafting itself in my head. “ was really relatable.
My mind races with unsolved problems (or made up problems) all the time. It isn’t until I slow down and challenge their truth and/or write them down that can I stop them from bouncing around in my head.
“Racing" is definitely too purposeful a description for my mind. It implies a finish line, when actually it's just chaos :-D